Your Emotions can block your Professional Growth and Success
We are Human Beings and we have emotions. Many of us are very emotional and some have control on their emotions that is why we have EQ. Emotions have nothing to do with gender, or geographic location or age group.
When you are hurt, you cry.
When you achieve something, you exult.
When someone rejects you or breach your trust or hurt you feel the pain, right there in your heart.
When you give more than your 100% to your work or to your relation and you fail; or when you achieve something big but do not get proper appreciation or recognition then you feel unwanted and frustrated.
All these emotions have nothing to do with your age or your nationality. You are Asian or American or English or African, we all feel the same.
I am of the opinion or feeling that most of the time our emotions come in the way of our success and professional growth. We have been given heart to feel and brain to think. Why don’t we use our organs in a proper manner? I am not saying that one must have heart of stone but one should have control on his or her emotions. Though having controlled emotion is a must for people in any profession but it is more relevant in my profession of Human Resource Management & Development. Imagine a situation where one person comes to you to share his problem and along with him, you also start crying. Have empathy but not sympathy. Say good things about people around you. Make them feel important, loved and wanted. Appreciate them. Touch their heart but at the same time don’t let others to touch your heart.
Do share your comments and feedback.
Regards
Sanjeev Sharma
(BLOG: http://sanjeevhimachali.blosgpot.com/ or <link outdated-removed>
From India, Mumbai
94We are Human Beings and we have emotions. Many of us are very emotional and some have control on their emotions that is why we have EQ. Emotions have nothing to do with gender, or geographic location or age group.
When you are hurt, you cry.
When you achieve something, you exult.
When someone rejects you or breach your trust or hurt you feel the pain, right there in your heart.
When you give more than your 100% to your work or to your relation and you fail; or when you achieve something big but do not get proper appreciation or recognition then you feel unwanted and frustrated.
All these emotions have nothing to do with your age or your nationality. You are Asian or American or English or African, we all feel the same.
I am of the opinion or feeling that most of the time our emotions come in the way of our success and professional growth. We have been given heart to feel and brain to think. Why don’t we use our organs in a proper manner? I am not saying that one must have heart of stone but one should have control on his or her emotions. Though having controlled emotion is a must for people in any profession but it is more relevant in my profession of Human Resource Management & Development. Imagine a situation where one person comes to you to share his problem and along with him, you also start crying. Have empathy but not sympathy. Say good things about people around you. Make them feel important, loved and wanted. Appreciate them. Touch their heart but at the same time don’t let others to touch your heart.
Do share your comments and feedback.
Regards
Sanjeev Sharma
(BLOG: http://sanjeevhimachali.blosgpot.com/ or <link outdated-removed>
From India, Mumbai
True...But as you yourself mentioned,we are human.
If we realize that our emotions can be a hindrance to our career growth, we can start practising control. We might not be able to achieve full success with this at first,but probably years down the line, we'l appreciate that we kept a check on our sentiments.
But it is hard.
Our minds are governed by our attitude-if we are feeling refreshed and happy, the result shows in our work.Try doing the same work in an angry and frustrated mood, and the results will definitely vary.
But yes, as HR people, we must try harder to be able to look at things objectively.As you rightly said, empathise and not sympathise.
I'd like to share an instance with you.
One of our Management Trainees fell ill after few days of joining. He was diagnosed with Jaundice and went on leave for an indefinite period.
It was a confusing time for us in HR for here was an employee unable to attend work,but too unaware of the policies of the company to keep us informed and avail any facility that was allowed. He was not aware that not informing the company/his HOD of his leave period would be taken against him.
All we could do was call him up( he stayed alone in a hostel,so there was probably no one to guide him) and ask him to keep us informed . Update us about the doctors consultations and orders. We wanted to help him, but he mistook our help for HR bureaucracy. He probably thought we were trying to penalize him for being absent while all we wanted was to educate him about the rules so that he could avail all the possible help!
From India
If we realize that our emotions can be a hindrance to our career growth, we can start practising control. We might not be able to achieve full success with this at first,but probably years down the line, we'l appreciate that we kept a check on our sentiments.
But it is hard.
Our minds are governed by our attitude-if we are feeling refreshed and happy, the result shows in our work.Try doing the same work in an angry and frustrated mood, and the results will definitely vary.
But yes, as HR people, we must try harder to be able to look at things objectively.As you rightly said, empathise and not sympathise.
I'd like to share an instance with you.
One of our Management Trainees fell ill after few days of joining. He was diagnosed with Jaundice and went on leave for an indefinite period.
It was a confusing time for us in HR for here was an employee unable to attend work,but too unaware of the policies of the company to keep us informed and avail any facility that was allowed. He was not aware that not informing the company/his HOD of his leave period would be taken against him.
All we could do was call him up( he stayed alone in a hostel,so there was probably no one to guide him) and ask him to keep us informed . Update us about the doctors consultations and orders. We wanted to help him, but he mistook our help for HR bureaucracy. He probably thought we were trying to penalize him for being absent while all we wanted was to educate him about the rules so that he could avail all the possible help!
From India
Thanks Samaira
I feel that,
EQ talks about controlling your emotions and not to flow in the river of emotions.
If you are emotional then there is a high chance that you are also biased in your decisions.
If you are emotional then there is an equal chance for you to become a part of the problem, rather then solving the problem.
If you are emotional, you will never be able to stand after failures and rejections in your life. You will remain in your self imposed shell.
Regards
Sanjeev Shrama
From India, Mumbai
I feel that,
EQ talks about controlling your emotions and not to flow in the river of emotions.
If you are emotional then there is a high chance that you are also biased in your decisions.
If you are emotional then there is an equal chance for you to become a part of the problem, rather then solving the problem.
If you are emotional, you will never be able to stand after failures and rejections in your life. You will remain in your self imposed shell.
Regards
Sanjeev Shrama
From India, Mumbai
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