for last 12 months I have been bullied around by this fellow and no one is able to stop him. The more I ignore him the more he feels jealous and hates more. If I try to have basic communication he tries to take opportunity to bully again and again. And whenever there is an issue and a further discussion afterwards with manager, there are plenty of lies thrown. Tell me how to resolve this. Is quitting job only the solution?
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Keep smiling............. that will irritate him more. Answer politly & patiently, if required c a situation were you could speak to him alone or take it up with your management in writing Vidya
From India, Bangalore
From India, Bangalore
his hatred resulted him calling me b** sh** for no reason... even after repeated persuasion and multiple requests to resolve the issue.... he went far to call me bas***.... even after warning not to use filthy words... he kept insulting me that I need to improve technical skills....(in a drunken state) and further he repeated bas***... he dint even care for the senior guys words to stop.... then i need to get hold of him... for which I was kicked.... and he continued.... he called client manager at late night and ask him why they are not escalating my technical inabilities (which were never questioned by any manager before)... and it lead to severe escalation(of the fact that he called client) to offshore managers and kept them busy for the weekend.... sources say he was bashed for involving client.... and we both were requested to apologize to client... (for no mistake of mine)... now I m afraid what story might had been told to client... and offshore people... so far he was neither warned or questioned for the verbal abuse.... which is the core of the problem... and I feel its disgusting to work in these circumstances.... Also I feel disappointed and stressed... and pretty shocking thing is ... the client manager (for whom I work only 10%) when asked by offshore managers... coolly told 'yes there some gaps in his (mine) tech abilities.... this hurts me more.... after 15 months of dedicated service working over weekends... earning over 17% of the base revenue.... I get this feedback.... so it all ended up in a meeting with him... apology... and manager requested not to discuss with any other client men....(as manager himself might be under risk as it was not further escalated...) the twist is... within an hour he leaks the story to a client fren... and in no time entire dept came to know what happened... and I got the name 'BOXING BOY'.... I have to laugh at my fate... and the story continues to next week.... there is a meeting with Sr Offshore Manager and we both... lets see how it turns out....
seems a typical politically oriented situation... see first thing Dont stay kool.(Yes)... its about ur job of 15 months and Self esteem also.... make others know about this...let him make coments in public so that others are also aware of it... Play safe and smart.... that's what all is required in this scenario... My sugestion are little vague but.....
From India, Delhi
From India, Delhi
If you HAVE to communicate with him, do it in written. Avoid all verbal communication. Meanwhile, if he is in the habit of simply coming to you and instigating you, then give a written complaint to the HR department about the verbal abuse etc. See what happens.. Also, do not accept the negative feedback given by ur manager and client. In fact make them answer why ur performance issues were not told before, so u could have taken measures to improve your performance. Why the company was bearing ur burden if they dint like ur work??? Just make sure to speak or write in the best manner. Be polite but stern!
From India, Mumbai
From India, Mumbai
Be cool and calm don't give ears to his word be neutral and enjoy life don't give reaction towards his action. let others recognise you and your qualities. The day that guy will realize that no one is giving any attention towards him he'll stop. But be careful with him. Let him do unnecessary things and you just concentrate in our work and live him aside with his sick attitude. Keep Similing. Cheers! Maria
From India, Ranchi
From India, Ranchi
phew..... letting offshore clients know wats happening internally?? But why? Maybe he is jealous... scared, fears abt his position (may be;-)) But lemme ask you - is he like this with everyone around or just YOU? What have others in the group got to say abt him? - (nt abt this behavior - but in general abt him) On the positive side - may be he is expecting too much perfection from you. Problem is not with you here. See this... As kids, we tend to blame each other (own brothers n sisters too), for no mistake of theirs. Kids "sometimes" dont like the other kid being too much pampered or forgiven.. They try to create a wrong image of the other kid, thus feeling satisfied that "Now no one will like him, they will come to me - I will get everything I want.." Parents dont take this too seriously as they think its a part of their growing. But - its bad in the long run. This grows along with the character and is moulded into the person himself. Here he is not able to cope with something so he insists on blaming you - complaning abt you. doing things out of the way to make everyone start thinking that you were nt doing something rite... What you could do here is - Not to panic. Filthy language is used when there is nothing better to think abt - people try to fill in the gap. He is clearly nt in his senses. Your management would understand that its very impt to maintain the image of the company outside as well as internally. Kindly clarify this with them during your next meeting with the management. Everyone were there around hearing all what he said - so ask the person to explain why he had to go to such extremes? May be this person is going thru a tough time in his personal life. I don feel sorry for you - beacuse, you are matured enough and you will surely know how to handle things and take care of yourself. I am worried abt this person you mentioned - he needs counselling. Else he will very soon see the end of his career. You are doing good:-)
From India, Madras
From India, Madras
Brother, The Great Napolean once said " Never interrupt your enemy when he is making a mistake ". I can feel your pain... Let that guy make mistakes...don't be a Munna Bhai...At appropriate time u'll get your chance to make matters equal...Just be patient for the time being...do not take any hasty decisions.
From India, Delhi
From India, Delhi
Hey Buddy, What Kinda company are you working with. No Professional Organisation can tolerate such behaviour. May the guy should have been asked to leave instead of appolozing to the Client. I think you are in the wrong job. I suggest look for some good opening outside. Can you tell me what you work as and which company. Maybe I can help you in some way. Regards Abhijeet Manager Recruitment 
From India, Mumbai
From India, Mumbai
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