Dear Senior, I am working currently as an HR Executive in one of the IT company since last one year my query is all the employees back stab me a lot they use abusing word for me and discuss about me hours and hours and i cant stop them as they are doing it behind my back. I just came to know about this before a week and it feels very depressing. Please suggest me what should i do i dont want to give resign and allow them to do the same with any other hr person who will come after me.
From India, Ahmedabad
From India, Ahmedabad
Dear Riya,
"The only reason people talk behind your back is because you're already ahead of them."
"No one can hurt you without your permission"
Somewhere in their heart they know (or maybe they don't know) that you are a better person, but they still try to speak of your weakness or negative things so as to get attention or following, of people who are also jealous of you or your achievements; or of the people who also hate you. There will always be the persons who will hate you or be jealous of you, no matter how great or good you are.
Before All this – Ask yourself – Is it really worth it? It’s got to make sense now! If it doesn't, it’s not worth fighting with such people. It’s not easy to just let somebody put you down. Don’t take it if you think the person is not worth it. But you won’t know who is worth it and who isn’t until you try.
So try talking it out with them and if doesn't work out, remember the first rule, you don’t have to waste your time and energy thinking about what worthless people think about you! But trying to sort it will save you from regretting it later. You’ll have the satisfaction that you did your bit to clear the problem.
Question the loyalty of the person who tells you someone is talking behind your back. And why is he / she so concerned about you ? Can you trust this person ?
Walk it off. Go home, take a bath, listen to relaxing music, turn off your phone, and take a nap.
Best reaction is Not to react at all. They will do for sometime and when they do not see any reactions they will move on.
You can see one of my answers on Quora that will help you find a solution to all your problems
https://www.quora.com/What-psycholog...__filter__=all
Cheer Up !
From India, Delhi
46"The only reason people talk behind your back is because you're already ahead of them."
"No one can hurt you without your permission"
Somewhere in their heart they know (or maybe they don't know) that you are a better person, but they still try to speak of your weakness or negative things so as to get attention or following, of people who are also jealous of you or your achievements; or of the people who also hate you. There will always be the persons who will hate you or be jealous of you, no matter how great or good you are.
Before All this – Ask yourself – Is it really worth it? It’s got to make sense now! If it doesn't, it’s not worth fighting with such people. It’s not easy to just let somebody put you down. Don’t take it if you think the person is not worth it. But you won’t know who is worth it and who isn’t until you try.
So try talking it out with them and if doesn't work out, remember the first rule, you don’t have to waste your time and energy thinking about what worthless people think about you! But trying to sort it will save you from regretting it later. You’ll have the satisfaction that you did your bit to clear the problem.
Question the loyalty of the person who tells you someone is talking behind your back. And why is he / she so concerned about you ? Can you trust this person ?
Walk it off. Go home, take a bath, listen to relaxing music, turn off your phone, and take a nap.
Best reaction is Not to react at all. They will do for sometime and when they do not see any reactions they will move on.
You can see one of my answers on Quora that will help you find a solution to all your problems
https://www.quora.com/What-psycholog...__filter__=all
Cheer Up !
From India, Delhi
Hi Buddy,
I am also of the opinion that you must reconfirm/recheck whatever you have learned from your well-wisher. It may be possible that the person is trying to demotivate you. In that case you should be happy because it shows that you are doing your job better than your well-wisher could. In case if your well-wisher is genuine then you need to sort this out through discussion. Try to find out what really went wrong and why these negative perception about you have got generated.
"Tree that bears the sweetest fruits gets the maximum number of stones."
From India, Mumbai
I am also of the opinion that you must reconfirm/recheck whatever you have learned from your well-wisher. It may be possible that the person is trying to demotivate you. In that case you should be happy because it shows that you are doing your job better than your well-wisher could. In case if your well-wisher is genuine then you need to sort this out through discussion. Try to find out what really went wrong and why these negative perception about you have got generated.
"Tree that bears the sweetest fruits gets the maximum number of stones."
From India, Mumbai
Dear Riya,
What someone speaks behind your back is a thing which you can not change, come what may. The People speak behind you is for a reason, that they cannot find fault in your work or processes. So the grape wine.
As far as the bosses and the management, is not a part of this grape-wine, you need not worry, but if the boss or the management is also a party to this back talk, then please, find a job for yourself and leave them behind.
From India, Mumbai
What someone speaks behind your back is a thing which you can not change, come what may. The People speak behind you is for a reason, that they cannot find fault in your work or processes. So the grape wine.
As far as the bosses and the management, is not a part of this grape-wine, you need not worry, but if the boss or the management is also a party to this back talk, then please, find a job for yourself and leave them behind.
From India, Mumbai
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