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Following article is absolutely important considering current day environment(be at work,home,with friends,partying wherever..)Jus take few minutes read the article,definitely it will kindle some kind of thoughts and u will start throwing light to those thoughts..
READ IT AND TRY TO PUT IN PRACTICE..
some worthful info.
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90/10 Principle
Discover the 90/10 Principle. It will change your life(at least the way you react to situations).
What is this principle?
10% of life is made up of what happens to you. 90% of life is decided by how you react. What does this mean?
We really have no control over 10% of what happens to us. We cannot stop the car from breaking down. The plane will be late arriving, which throws our whole schedule off. A driver may cut us off in traffic. We have no control over this 10%. The other 90% is different. You determine the other 90%.
How? By your reaction. You cannot control a red light.
However, you can control your reaction. Do not let people fool you; YOU can control how you react.
Let us use an example: You are eating breakfast with your family. Your daughter knocks over a cup of coffee onto your business shirt. You have no control over what just what happened. What happens when the next will be determined by how you react. You curse. You harshly scold your daughter for knocking the cup over.
She breaks down in tears. After scolding her, you turn to your spouse and criticize her for placing the cup too close to the edge of the table. A short verbal battle follows. You storm upstairs and change your shirt. Back downstairs, you find your daughter has been too busy crying to finish breakfast and get ready for school. She misses the bus. Your spouse must
leave immediately for work.
You rush to the car and drive your daughter to school. Because you are late, you drive 40 miles an hour in a 30 mph speed limit. After a 15-minute delay and throwing $60 traffic fine away, you arrive at school. Your daughter runs into the building without saying goodbye. Afterarriving at the office 20 minutes late, you find you forgot your briefcase.Your day
has started terrible. As it continues, it seems to get worse and worse. You look forward to coming home, When you arrive home, you find small wedge in your relationship with your spouse and daughter.
Why? Because of how you reacted in the morning. Why did you have a bad day?
A) Did the coffee cause it?
B) Did your daughter cause it?
C) Did the policeman cause it?
D) Did you cause it?
The answer is NO
You had no control over what happened with the coffee.
How you reacted in those 5 seconds is what caused your bad day. Here
is what could have and should have happened.
Coffee splashes over you. Your daughter is about to cry. You gently say, "Its ok honey, you just need, to be more careful next time". Grabbing a towel, you rush upstairs. After grabbing a new shirt and your briefcase, you come back down in time to look through the window and see your child getting on the bus. She turns and waves. You arrive 5 minutes early and cheerfully greet the staff. Your boss comments on how
good the day you are having.
Notice the difference?
Two different scenarios. Both started the same. Both ended different.
Why? Because of how you REACTED.
You really do not have any control over 10% of what happens.
The other 90% was determined by your reaction.
Here are some ways to apply the 90/10 principle.
If someone says something negative about you, do not be a sponge. Let the attack roll off like water on glass.You do not have to let the negative comment affect you! React properly and it will not ruin your day. A wrong
reaction could result in losing a friend, being fired, getting stressed out
etc.
How do you react if someone cuts you off in traffic?
Do you lose your temper?
Pound on the steering wheel? A friend of mine had the steering wheel fall
Off)
Do you curse?
Does your blood pressure skyrocket?
Do you try to bump them?
WHO CARES if you arrive ten seconds later at work? Why let the cars ruin your drive. Remember the 90/10 principle, and do not worry about it.
You are told you lost your job. Why lose sleep and get irritated? It will work out. Use your worrying energy and time into finding another job.
The plane is late; it is going to mangle your schedule for the day. Why take out your frustration on the flight attendant? She has no control over what is going on. Use your time to study, get to know the other passenger.
Why are stressed out? It will just make Things worse. Now you know the 90-10 principle. Apply it and you will be amazed at the results. You will lose nothing if you try it.
The 90-10 principle is incredible. Very few know and apply this principle.
The result? Millions of people are suffering from undeserved stress, trials, problems and heartache.
We all must understand and try to apply the 90/10principle.
It CAN change our life!
Best Wishes,
Sridhar,
Executive - HR
Invensys India Development Center.
From India, Hyderabad
4Following article is absolutely important considering current day environment(be at work,home,with friends,partying wherever..)Jus take few minutes read the article,definitely it will kindle some kind of thoughts and u will start throwing light to those thoughts..
READ IT AND TRY TO PUT IN PRACTICE..
some worthful info.
-------------------------------------------------------
90/10 Principle
Discover the 90/10 Principle. It will change your life(at least the way you react to situations).
What is this principle?
10% of life is made up of what happens to you. 90% of life is decided by how you react. What does this mean?
We really have no control over 10% of what happens to us. We cannot stop the car from breaking down. The plane will be late arriving, which throws our whole schedule off. A driver may cut us off in traffic. We have no control over this 10%. The other 90% is different. You determine the other 90%.
How? By your reaction. You cannot control a red light.
However, you can control your reaction. Do not let people fool you; YOU can control how you react.
Let us use an example: You are eating breakfast with your family. Your daughter knocks over a cup of coffee onto your business shirt. You have no control over what just what happened. What happens when the next will be determined by how you react. You curse. You harshly scold your daughter for knocking the cup over.
She breaks down in tears. After scolding her, you turn to your spouse and criticize her for placing the cup too close to the edge of the table. A short verbal battle follows. You storm upstairs and change your shirt. Back downstairs, you find your daughter has been too busy crying to finish breakfast and get ready for school. She misses the bus. Your spouse must
leave immediately for work.
You rush to the car and drive your daughter to school. Because you are late, you drive 40 miles an hour in a 30 mph speed limit. After a 15-minute delay and throwing $60 traffic fine away, you arrive at school. Your daughter runs into the building without saying goodbye. Afterarriving at the office 20 minutes late, you find you forgot your briefcase.Your day
has started terrible. As it continues, it seems to get worse and worse. You look forward to coming home, When you arrive home, you find small wedge in your relationship with your spouse and daughter.
Why? Because of how you reacted in the morning. Why did you have a bad day?
A) Did the coffee cause it?
B) Did your daughter cause it?
C) Did the policeman cause it?
D) Did you cause it?
The answer is NO
You had no control over what happened with the coffee.
How you reacted in those 5 seconds is what caused your bad day. Here
is what could have and should have happened.
Coffee splashes over you. Your daughter is about to cry. You gently say, "Its ok honey, you just need, to be more careful next time". Grabbing a towel, you rush upstairs. After grabbing a new shirt and your briefcase, you come back down in time to look through the window and see your child getting on the bus. She turns and waves. You arrive 5 minutes early and cheerfully greet the staff. Your boss comments on how
good the day you are having.
Notice the difference?
Two different scenarios. Both started the same. Both ended different.
Why? Because of how you REACTED.
You really do not have any control over 10% of what happens.
The other 90% was determined by your reaction.
Here are some ways to apply the 90/10 principle.
If someone says something negative about you, do not be a sponge. Let the attack roll off like water on glass.You do not have to let the negative comment affect you! React properly and it will not ruin your day. A wrong
reaction could result in losing a friend, being fired, getting stressed out
etc.
How do you react if someone cuts you off in traffic?
Do you lose your temper?
Pound on the steering wheel? A friend of mine had the steering wheel fall
Off)
Do you curse?
Does your blood pressure skyrocket?
Do you try to bump them?
WHO CARES if you arrive ten seconds later at work? Why let the cars ruin your drive. Remember the 90/10 principle, and do not worry about it.
You are told you lost your job. Why lose sleep and get irritated? It will work out. Use your worrying energy and time into finding another job.
The plane is late; it is going to mangle your schedule for the day. Why take out your frustration on the flight attendant? She has no control over what is going on. Use your time to study, get to know the other passenger.
Why are stressed out? It will just make Things worse. Now you know the 90-10 principle. Apply it and you will be amazed at the results. You will lose nothing if you try it.
The 90-10 principle is incredible. Very few know and apply this principle.
The result? Millions of people are suffering from undeserved stress, trials, problems and heartache.
We all must understand and try to apply the 90/10principle.
It CAN change our life!
Best Wishes,
Sridhar,
Executive - HR
Invensys India Development Center.
From India, Hyderabad
This article reminds me of 'The Butterfly Effect' . . .
The Butterfly Effect says that one small event in some place a can affect something happening in another part of the world. A beautiful hollywood movie was also made out of this principle.
Coming back to 10/90 principle in the above article . . .
It is the 'small' action in the morning that changed the entire day and subsequently several further days . . .
We should not forget how our small actions affect others and subsequently us too.
Our behaviour has a significant impact on our spouse, children, peers and sub-ordinates ... and in the long run shapes their life and responses too.
Think about it . . .
From Switzerland, Geneva
The Butterfly Effect says that one small event in some place a can affect something happening in another part of the world. A beautiful hollywood movie was also made out of this principle.
Coming back to 10/90 principle in the above article . . .
It is the 'small' action in the morning that changed the entire day and subsequently several further days . . .
We should not forget how our small actions affect others and subsequently us too.
Our behaviour has a significant impact on our spouse, children, peers and sub-ordinates ... and in the long run shapes their life and responses too.
Think about it . . .
From Switzerland, Geneva
hi shoonya....which movie are u talkin abt....plz tell me the name..
i dont remember...i ve seeen 1 movie with this small kid doin 3 noble things..n everytime he helps someone out..he asks thm to continue...the movie was called PAY IT FOWARD.
i wld like to see the movie u r talkin abt...
regards
sunayna
From India, Mumbai
i dont remember...i ve seeen 1 movie with this small kid doin 3 noble things..n everytime he helps someone out..he asks thm to continue...the movie was called PAY IT FOWARD.
i wld like to see the movie u r talkin abt...
regards
sunayna
From India, Mumbai
The movie i am referring to is 'The Butterfly Effect' ...
a class movie ... read something about the butterfly effect on the net ... it might seem irrelevant .... then watch the movie and you will underdtand it etter ..
I saw the movie thrice before i actually understood it ;-)
From Switzerland, Geneva
a class movie ... read something about the butterfly effect on the net ... it might seem irrelevant .... then watch the movie and you will underdtand it etter ..
I saw the movie thrice before i actually understood it ;-)
From Switzerland, Geneva
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