hi sunayna,
OB is one damn interestin subject. which may look confusing.. but it is the basic for any HR funtion.. or HR strategy.. just interesting subject to look on anytime...
ok see u
have a nice time
donot get confused.. your are right about value and attitude just see the people around u and try to know that if u r right or wron.. okk vey easy
From India, Vadodara
5OB is one damn interestin subject. which may look confusing.. but it is the basic for any HR funtion.. or HR strategy.. just interesting subject to look on anytime...
ok see u
have a nice time
donot get confused.. your are right about value and attitude just see the people around u and try to know that if u r right or wron.. okk vey easy
From India, Vadodara
hi sree
i am glad that i am right
cool
heres a story
in short it proves that you can achieve anything and everything in life with the right attitude
:)
You Become What You Want to Be
By Marilyn Joan
Growing up the fifth of six children was a challenge, the struggle for placement and acceptance being the usual issues. Personally, I never felt I needed to be heard or seen. Taught to be seen and not heard from the time we were born, when we broke that rule we were punished severely.
I had several strikes against me growing up. I had very little self-esteem, if any. Our mother had a hair-trigger temper and we constantly had to avoid her wrath, learning to fear and not thrive as children. Even when we weren't in trouble, we felt like we had done something wrong. Talking about love or sex in our house was totally taboo. Our home lacked warmth and my fears of incurring my mother's anger outweighed my desire to talk to her about very important things that should have been dealt with as a child, not as an adult.
My childhood was short. I always say I graduated from the school of hard knocks, and meant it. I was molested between the ages of ten and thirteen by four different family friends and a family member. I was an alcoholic by the time I was fourteen and a frequent user of drugs when I wasn't drunk.
I was not popular in school, my grades were not great and the only thing I excelled at was spelling, which would not carry me far. My mom planted the seeds and watered them daily, telling me I wasn't smart enough or good enough to reach the goals I set for myself in life. I wanted to be a teacher, a stewardess or a nurse. At one time, I had many, many dreams. Not one of them was something my mother encouraged or thought I could accomplish.
I made mistakes, too many to mention and some so humiliating that I cringe inside today as I recall them. The drugs, the alcohol and the self-destructive path I was on were not things I was proud of. I wanted so desperately to change, but I had no idea how. I just wasn't good enough to succeed at anything. The only positive thing left was my desire to try.
I started dating a guy when I was thirteen, falling hopelessly in love with him. True to form, my mother told me I would never do better and on my sixteenth birthday we were engaged. We moved in together after high school and married at nineteen. We had two beautiful kids together, and that was the turning point in my life. Being a good mother was something I could accomplish.
Marrying so young was wrong, we both knew it. We were drawn to each other for all the wrong reasons. It was bad for him, it was bad for me, it was bad for the children, so I started my road to recovery by divorcing him. We never harbored any hate or animosity for each other and frankly I liked him better once we lived apart. He became a better father and a better person and I too became a better human being.
I began to reinvent and get reacquainted with myself. I faced my problems with the help of psychologists and social workers, who taught me healthy parenting and life skills. With their help and encouragement I learned to talk with my kids and to value them for who they were. I am able to guide them toward realizing their full potential through encouragement and emotional support. And, I have stayed clean and sober.
During therapy I remembered the sexual abuse and came forward to have the man arrested and charged with his crimes. I felt wonderful, vindicated and strong when he was convicted twenty years later for the crimes he committed against me.
I look back with 20/20 hindsight and wonder why my educators never picked up on my abuse. The signs were there, I read it in my report cards. About a sullen little girl who sulks and wants to be the center of attention, and cries. No, I don't want to be the center of attention. I just want to be loved. Can't you see that! I remember all the incidents as if they were yesterday and have worked hard to move beyond feeling like a victim.
Today I feel lucky. I have a wonderful husband, two more great kids and a home in the country, a life far beyond the dreams of a kid being drowned in the toilet. I have never beaten my children or belittled them. I overcame great odds, faced the loathing and shame, and grieved for the loss of my childhood so that the cycle stopped with me. In its place a life centered on love and nurturing has taken root and I am careful to plant more seeds and water them daily.
From India, Mumbai
i am glad that i am right
cool
heres a story
in short it proves that you can achieve anything and everything in life with the right attitude
:)
You Become What You Want to Be
By Marilyn Joan
Growing up the fifth of six children was a challenge, the struggle for placement and acceptance being the usual issues. Personally, I never felt I needed to be heard or seen. Taught to be seen and not heard from the time we were born, when we broke that rule we were punished severely.
I had several strikes against me growing up. I had very little self-esteem, if any. Our mother had a hair-trigger temper and we constantly had to avoid her wrath, learning to fear and not thrive as children. Even when we weren't in trouble, we felt like we had done something wrong. Talking about love or sex in our house was totally taboo. Our home lacked warmth and my fears of incurring my mother's anger outweighed my desire to talk to her about very important things that should have been dealt with as a child, not as an adult.
My childhood was short. I always say I graduated from the school of hard knocks, and meant it. I was molested between the ages of ten and thirteen by four different family friends and a family member. I was an alcoholic by the time I was fourteen and a frequent user of drugs when I wasn't drunk.
I was not popular in school, my grades were not great and the only thing I excelled at was spelling, which would not carry me far. My mom planted the seeds and watered them daily, telling me I wasn't smart enough or good enough to reach the goals I set for myself in life. I wanted to be a teacher, a stewardess or a nurse. At one time, I had many, many dreams. Not one of them was something my mother encouraged or thought I could accomplish.
I made mistakes, too many to mention and some so humiliating that I cringe inside today as I recall them. The drugs, the alcohol and the self-destructive path I was on were not things I was proud of. I wanted so desperately to change, but I had no idea how. I just wasn't good enough to succeed at anything. The only positive thing left was my desire to try.
I started dating a guy when I was thirteen, falling hopelessly in love with him. True to form, my mother told me I would never do better and on my sixteenth birthday we were engaged. We moved in together after high school and married at nineteen. We had two beautiful kids together, and that was the turning point in my life. Being a good mother was something I could accomplish.
Marrying so young was wrong, we both knew it. We were drawn to each other for all the wrong reasons. It was bad for him, it was bad for me, it was bad for the children, so I started my road to recovery by divorcing him. We never harbored any hate or animosity for each other and frankly I liked him better once we lived apart. He became a better father and a better person and I too became a better human being.
I began to reinvent and get reacquainted with myself. I faced my problems with the help of psychologists and social workers, who taught me healthy parenting and life skills. With their help and encouragement I learned to talk with my kids and to value them for who they were. I am able to guide them toward realizing their full potential through encouragement and emotional support. And, I have stayed clean and sober.
During therapy I remembered the sexual abuse and came forward to have the man arrested and charged with his crimes. I felt wonderful, vindicated and strong when he was convicted twenty years later for the crimes he committed against me.
I look back with 20/20 hindsight and wonder why my educators never picked up on my abuse. The signs were there, I read it in my report cards. About a sullen little girl who sulks and wants to be the center of attention, and cries. No, I don't want to be the center of attention. I just want to be loved. Can't you see that! I remember all the incidents as if they were yesterday and have worked hard to move beyond feeling like a victim.
Today I feel lucky. I have a wonderful husband, two more great kids and a home in the country, a life far beyond the dreams of a kid being drowned in the toilet. I have never beaten my children or belittled them. I overcame great odds, faced the loathing and shame, and grieved for the loss of my childhood so that the cycle stopped with me. In its place a life centered on love and nurturing has taken root and I am careful to plant more seeds and water them daily.
From India, Mumbai
hi sunayna, this was a good article.. i am thinking to follow dr.jm... but the article was good. if it live person article or just some think story kind.. ok see u have a nice time byee
From India, Vadodara
From India, Vadodara
RETARDED
And they call some of these people "retarded"...
A few years ago, at the Seattle Special Olympics, nine contestants,all physically or mentally disabled, assembled at the starting line for the 100-yard dash.
At the gun, they all started out, not exactly in a dash, but with a relish to run the race to the finish and win.
All, that is, except one little boy who stumbled on the asphalt, tumbled over a couple of times, and began to cry.
The other eight heard the boy cry.
They slowed down and looked back. Then they all turned around and went
back......every one of them.
One girl with Down's Syndrome bent down and kissed him and said, "This
will
make it better." Then all nine linked arms and walked together to the
finish line.
Everyone in the stadium stood, the cheering went on for several
minutes.
People who were there are still telling the story ....
Why?
Because deep down we know this one thing:
What matters in this life is more than winning for ourselves. What matters in this life is helping others win, even if it means slowing down and changing our course.
If you pass this on, we may be able to change our hearts as well as
someone
else's.
"A candle loses nothing by lighting another candle"
From India, Mumbai
And they call some of these people "retarded"...
A few years ago, at the Seattle Special Olympics, nine contestants,all physically or mentally disabled, assembled at the starting line for the 100-yard dash.
At the gun, they all started out, not exactly in a dash, but with a relish to run the race to the finish and win.
All, that is, except one little boy who stumbled on the asphalt, tumbled over a couple of times, and began to cry.
The other eight heard the boy cry.
They slowed down and looked back. Then they all turned around and went
back......every one of them.
One girl with Down's Syndrome bent down and kissed him and said, "This
will
make it better." Then all nine linked arms and walked together to the
finish line.
Everyone in the stadium stood, the cheering went on for several
minutes.
People who were there are still telling the story ....
Why?
Because deep down we know this one thing:
What matters in this life is more than winning for ourselves. What matters in this life is helping others win, even if it means slowing down and changing our course.
If you pass this on, we may be able to change our hearts as well as
someone
else's.
"A candle loses nothing by lighting another candle"
From India, Mumbai
Hi
Its really a wonderful story on being Positive. Here I could remember one more such story that is known across the country.
Let me tell the story as follows:
Once upon a time, there lived a King whose minister is all positive in his approach towards life. He always used to say ' Whatever happened, its for our good.
One day, the King was having his break-fast. While he was cutting a fruit, he cut his finger with the knife. When he met his minister and informed him of the injury, his minister as usual replied "Whatever happened, its for our good. For this remark, the king became furious and ordered that the minister to be imprisoned.
As the Minister was imprisoned, the king went to Shikaar alone. When he went into deep forest, a group of tribals found him and tied him and took him to their Village Priest. As the tribals were then celebrating a festival, the Priest ordered that the king be sacrificed to please the Goddess. Then, the king worried over his fate but could not do anything. The king was asked to bow his head before the Goddess. Just before cutting off his head, someone from the group yelled saying " He has an injury and hence is not fit for sacrifice to the Goddess". Then, the priest ordered to release him. Then, felt relieved, the king came back to his kingdom.
He went to the imprisoned Minister and narrated the story, for which again, the minister replied "Whatever happened, its for our good". The king said. " Its ok that my life is saved because of the injury, but what about you? Today, unnecessarily you are in the prison. Why do you think that it is for good?" . Smiling, the Minister answered. "My Lord! if I wasnt arrested by you, I would have accompanied to the forest. As I am healthy, they would have left you and sacrificed me instead". Hence, by keeping me in prison, you saved my life". The King felt overwhelmed at the answer of the Minister and immediately released him from the jail. Further, he showered upon him valuable gifts for his unbounding Positive attitude.
Perhaps, I may not be good at bringing the literary value to this anecdote.. but, hope, my message is clear "Whatever happens, it is for our good ". Hence "Be Positive"
From India, Hyderabad
Its really a wonderful story on being Positive. Here I could remember one more such story that is known across the country.
Let me tell the story as follows:
Once upon a time, there lived a King whose minister is all positive in his approach towards life. He always used to say ' Whatever happened, its for our good.
One day, the King was having his break-fast. While he was cutting a fruit, he cut his finger with the knife. When he met his minister and informed him of the injury, his minister as usual replied "Whatever happened, its for our good. For this remark, the king became furious and ordered that the minister to be imprisoned.
As the Minister was imprisoned, the king went to Shikaar alone. When he went into deep forest, a group of tribals found him and tied him and took him to their Village Priest. As the tribals were then celebrating a festival, the Priest ordered that the king be sacrificed to please the Goddess. Then, the king worried over his fate but could not do anything. The king was asked to bow his head before the Goddess. Just before cutting off his head, someone from the group yelled saying " He has an injury and hence is not fit for sacrifice to the Goddess". Then, the priest ordered to release him. Then, felt relieved, the king came back to his kingdom.
He went to the imprisoned Minister and narrated the story, for which again, the minister replied "Whatever happened, its for our good". The king said. " Its ok that my life is saved because of the injury, but what about you? Today, unnecessarily you are in the prison. Why do you think that it is for good?" . Smiling, the Minister answered. "My Lord! if I wasnt arrested by you, I would have accompanied to the forest. As I am healthy, they would have left you and sacrificed me instead". Hence, by keeping me in prison, you saved my life". The King felt overwhelmed at the answer of the Minister and immediately released him from the jail. Further, he showered upon him valuable gifts for his unbounding Positive attitude.
Perhaps, I may not be good at bringing the literary value to this anecdote.. but, hope, my message is clear "Whatever happens, it is for our good ". Hence "Be Positive"
From India, Hyderabad
hi sunayana,
a tricky question u posed indeed. didnt u? u too know dat..... When I say 'everything happens for our good'.. Its the literary expression of one side of our attitude... Here the Minister represents our positive attitude. The maxim behind the saying is that 'U try to look at the better (positive) side of the issue'... Then, we feel that everything happens for our good... Jst like the 'Half full- half empty' type..... Everything depends upon our looks... i.e., how we look at the things.. .
U r lucky ... for ur name itself (Sunayana = Gal with good eyes (looks))... so, u r by default with +ve looks.. keep them so... n run the show....
regards....
srinivas
From India, Hyderabad
a tricky question u posed indeed. didnt u? u too know dat..... When I say 'everything happens for our good'.. Its the literary expression of one side of our attitude... Here the Minister represents our positive attitude. The maxim behind the saying is that 'U try to look at the better (positive) side of the issue'... Then, we feel that everything happens for our good... Jst like the 'Half full- half empty' type..... Everything depends upon our looks... i.e., how we look at the things.. .
U r lucky ... for ur name itself (Sunayana = Gal with good eyes (looks))... so, u r by default with +ve looks.. keep them so... n run the show....
regards....
srinivas
From India, Hyderabad
I strongly believe in
"Jo hota hain vo achche ke liye hota hain"
"Everything happens for Good"
but the trouble is ' the moment when it is happening, it is diffcult to foresee the goood side of it ... and the present is a problem .... after the 'good' has happenend ... it is easier to serach the happening adn say ' good that it happenned ' ... but the moment of truth is always troublesome and pain ful ...
For example ... When I lost my IT jobin Dec 2001 ... i firmly believed that it was for good ... but how do you explain it to family and friends and for that matter yourself too ... but definately it was the BEST things to happen to me in those days ...
It changed my life and it gave me great opportunities to do what i wanted to doa dn not just what everyone was doing !!
So it boils down to holding the belief firmly in mind that "Its all for the Good" and continue .... striving ... walking the path ... enzoying life ...
keep smiling and have a great day !!
. . . shoOOonya . . .
From Switzerland, Geneva
"Jo hota hain vo achche ke liye hota hain"
"Everything happens for Good"
but the trouble is ' the moment when it is happening, it is diffcult to foresee the goood side of it ... and the present is a problem .... after the 'good' has happenend ... it is easier to serach the happening adn say ' good that it happenned ' ... but the moment of truth is always troublesome and pain ful ...
For example ... When I lost my IT jobin Dec 2001 ... i firmly believed that it was for good ... but how do you explain it to family and friends and for that matter yourself too ... but definately it was the BEST things to happen to me in those days ...
It changed my life and it gave me great opportunities to do what i wanted to doa dn not just what everyone was doing !!
So it boils down to holding the belief firmly in mind that "Its all for the Good" and continue .... striving ... walking the path ... enzoying life ...
keep smiling and have a great day !!
. . . shoOOonya . . .
From Switzerland, Geneva
i try my best to do the same
at times i wonder...does everything really happen for the good..or is it me....who wants to believe like tht.. n try finding something goood?
i guess this is wer we we need patience and trust in Him up there.
patience is a virtue...i really dont follow it....but try my best to be patient
same to u shoonya
hav fun
From India, Mumbai
at times i wonder...does everything really happen for the good..or is it me....who wants to believe like tht.. n try finding something goood?
i guess this is wer we we need patience and trust in Him up there.
patience is a virtue...i really dont follow it....but try my best to be patient
same to u shoonya
hav fun
From India, Mumbai
hi vishal dude.
glad u liked it
sure ul appreciate this too
u know..in college..we have dudes and dudi's(it was later we found tht it was dudette)
so..we used to enter a room n say..hello dudes and dudi's.. now it sounds sooo silly
A jobless man applied for the position of 'office boy' at Microsoft.
The HR manager interviewed him, then a test: clean the floor. "You are engaged" he said,
give me your e-mail address, and I'll send you the application to fill, as well as when you
will start.
The man replied " I don't have a computer, neither an email".
I'm sorry, said the HR manager, if you don't have an email, which means you do not exist.
And who doesn't exist, cannot have the job.
The man left with no hope at all. He didn't know what to do, with only $10 in his pocket. He
then decided to go to the supermarket and buy a 10 lbs. tomato crate.
He then sold the tomatoes in a door-to-door round. In less than two hours, He succeeded to
double his capital. He repeated the operation three times, and returned home with $60!.
The man realized that he can survive by this way, and started to go everyday earlier, and
return late.
Thus, his money doubles or triples everyday. Shortly later, he bought a cart, then a truck,
then he had his own fleet of delivery vehicles 5 years later, the man is one of the biggest
food retailers in the U. S.
He started to plan his family's future, and decided to have a life insurance. He called an
insurance broker, and chooses a protection plan.
When the conversation was concluded, the broker asked him his email. The man replied: ' I
don't have an email'.
The broker replied curiously, you don't have an email, and yet have succeeded to build an
empire. Do you imagine what you could have been if you had an email?!!
The man thought for a while, and replied: An office boy at Microsoft!
The moral of this story :
M1-Internet is not the solution to your life.
M2- Even if you don't have Internet, and work hard, you can still be a
millionaire.
M3- If you received this message by email, you are closer to be an office boy, rather than a millionaire.
From India, Mumbai
glad u liked it
sure ul appreciate this too
u know..in college..we have dudes and dudi's(it was later we found tht it was dudette)
so..we used to enter a room n say..hello dudes and dudi's.. now it sounds sooo silly
A jobless man applied for the position of 'office boy' at Microsoft.
The HR manager interviewed him, then a test: clean the floor. "You are engaged" he said,
give me your e-mail address, and I'll send you the application to fill, as well as when you
will start.
The man replied " I don't have a computer, neither an email".
I'm sorry, said the HR manager, if you don't have an email, which means you do not exist.
And who doesn't exist, cannot have the job.
The man left with no hope at all. He didn't know what to do, with only $10 in his pocket. He
then decided to go to the supermarket and buy a 10 lbs. tomato crate.
He then sold the tomatoes in a door-to-door round. In less than two hours, He succeeded to
double his capital. He repeated the operation three times, and returned home with $60!.
The man realized that he can survive by this way, and started to go everyday earlier, and
return late.
Thus, his money doubles or triples everyday. Shortly later, he bought a cart, then a truck,
then he had his own fleet of delivery vehicles 5 years later, the man is one of the biggest
food retailers in the U. S.
He started to plan his family's future, and decided to have a life insurance. He called an
insurance broker, and chooses a protection plan.
When the conversation was concluded, the broker asked him his email. The man replied: ' I
don't have an email'.
The broker replied curiously, you don't have an email, and yet have succeeded to build an
empire. Do you imagine what you could have been if you had an email?!!
The man thought for a while, and replied: An office boy at Microsoft!
The moral of this story :
M1-Internet is not the solution to your life.
M2- Even if you don't have Internet, and work hard, you can still be a
millionaire.
M3- If you received this message by email, you are closer to be an office boy, rather than a millionaire.
From India, Mumbai
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