Dear Kumar,
Fear makes Ur life so NERVOUS, AND TENSION
i know the fealings, that you are now facing, and i have passed through
You know, being an ENGLISH MEDIUM student, i am not getting good marks in my exams at school age.
And iam the only student that was unable to speak to any body i.e. with class teacher in school.
And in college level, i lost my confidence when i first time faced the ELOCUTION COMPETITION--on stage, i couldn't speak at all.
i felt ASHAMED. u KNOW i started READING NEWS PAPERS in English
started talking to ELDERS in house and NEIGHBORS, at the beginning they use to laugh
but later, now a days i am the person in my COMPANY where i work ACTING as TECHNICAL CONSULTANT, come HR
and now fluently speak to ANY BODY without any FEAR
so what i say ....
TRY 'N' TRY A LOT till U speak English fluently with ANYBODY in LIFE
From India, Hyderabad
Fear makes Ur life so NERVOUS, AND TENSION
i know the fealings, that you are now facing, and i have passed through
You know, being an ENGLISH MEDIUM student, i am not getting good marks in my exams at school age.
And iam the only student that was unable to speak to any body i.e. with class teacher in school.
And in college level, i lost my confidence when i first time faced the ELOCUTION COMPETITION--on stage, i couldn't speak at all.
i felt ASHAMED. u KNOW i started READING NEWS PAPERS in English
started talking to ELDERS in house and NEIGHBORS, at the beginning they use to laugh
but later, now a days i am the person in my COMPANY where i work ACTING as TECHNICAL CONSULTANT, come HR
and now fluently speak to ANY BODY without any FEAR
so what i say ....
TRY 'N' TRY A LOT till U speak English fluently with ANYBODY in LIFE
From India, Hyderabad
Hi,
there are is no escape from stage fear... I have evolved as a effective speaker with just one mantra, i am hope this works out for you.
I always believed that the target audience were fools and they don know the topic, but once i finish the presentation, during Q&A session i come back to my humble best.
Try it
if it works.. treat me...
if it doesn't teach me.
Vijay
From India, Pollachi
1there are is no escape from stage fear... I have evolved as a effective speaker with just one mantra, i am hope this works out for you.
I always believed that the target audience were fools and they don know the topic, but once i finish the presentation, during Q&A session i come back to my humble best.
Try it
if it works.. treat me...
if it doesn't teach me.
Vijay
From India, Pollachi
Dear Kumar,
By the time, u would hav got many tips frm all my frnz out here. My suggestion is very simple, Stage fear lives for three reasons , viz.,
1. Lack of subject knowledge
2. Lack of confidence over your language
3. Mindset
You can acquire the first two by many exercise, which people wud hav explained you. The most simple and hard hitting thing is your Mindset n tat elevates u go up and the same pulls u dwn. So, very simple, hav the attitude - Never ever give up.
I wud suggest, start addressing the people very close to you in small nos. say 4 to 8, take a topic such tat u know inside out of it. Sure it vl work....try, try, try and stop not, until u get it. Hey Kumar, when others can, why can't u?? You can do....move.
From India, Mangaluru
By the time, u would hav got many tips frm all my frnz out here. My suggestion is very simple, Stage fear lives for three reasons , viz.,
1. Lack of subject knowledge
2. Lack of confidence over your language
3. Mindset
You can acquire the first two by many exercise, which people wud hav explained you. The most simple and hard hitting thing is your Mindset n tat elevates u go up and the same pulls u dwn. So, very simple, hav the attitude - Never ever give up.
I wud suggest, start addressing the people very close to you in small nos. say 4 to 8, take a topic such tat u know inside out of it. Sure it vl work....try, try, try and stop not, until u get it. Hey Kumar, when others can, why can't u?? You can do....move.
From India, Mangaluru
Hi Dear,
I want add one thing more which can help you a lot.
Prepare your presentations with more visuals so that the attention of the audiance will be diverted from your speech towards visuals.It will be easier for you also to explain visual slides effectively without facing the group much.After some time,the confidence will built up and you will be at ease to face the group.
Anjan
From India, Bangalore
I want add one thing more which can help you a lot.
Prepare your presentations with more visuals so that the attention of the audiance will be diverted from your speech towards visuals.It will be easier for you also to explain visual slides effectively without facing the group much.After some time,the confidence will built up and you will be at ease to face the group.
Anjan
From India, Bangalore
Dear Kumar,
Maintain eye contact with the people in the conefence who will give comfort to you initially. then when you get aquientance with the team on the other side of the table you can also involve them to few of your questions so that you will get some time to move on.
After couple of such conferences you will be able to come over stage fear.
regards,
Madhav
From India, Hyderabad
Maintain eye contact with the people in the conefence who will give comfort to you initially. then when you get aquientance with the team on the other side of the table you can also involve them to few of your questions so that you will get some time to move on.
After couple of such conferences you will be able to come over stage fear.
regards,
Madhav
From India, Hyderabad
before i can suggest you anything can i tell u something abt me? I have been a state level champion for 3 times in elocution and debate competition in my schooling, i have been taking classes of IELTS & spoken english and I have taken part in elocution & debate more than 350 times and won almost every time...! I have won research paper presentation competition in Software Engineering & recently i have been HR manager in a software firm...! the reason why i am telling u is in my schooling i was also very shy and nervous while speaking but one of my frd identified that quality in me & encouraged me to speak. as a result wen i come to speak on stage..u won't believe the crowd become complete silent. so beliee in urself. the motive of telling my story was not self appraisal but to motivate u to speak. & guess my age...! I am only 21 yrs old now. astonished?
every one will advice you many things but most important believe in yourself that u can do it & trust that u can deliever a good speech. to speak in a better way u should have enough worthwhile content to speak. so start reading newspaper, inspirational magazines, novels, science journals, etc then share it wth anyone surrounding you. and keep one thing in mind while speaking that when u r speaking then no one knows better than you what u are speaking...! be confident and forget everything except ur spirit. this will surely help u. for more details u can contact me on my mail. with warm regards my id is [IMG]https://www.citehr.com/misc.php?do=email_dev&email=Z2F1cmF2LmhyLmtpbnR1QG hvdG1haWwuY29t[/IMG]
From India, Ahmadabad
every one will advice you many things but most important believe in yourself that u can do it & trust that u can deliever a good speech. to speak in a better way u should have enough worthwhile content to speak. so start reading newspaper, inspirational magazines, novels, science journals, etc then share it wth anyone surrounding you. and keep one thing in mind while speaking that when u r speaking then no one knows better than you what u are speaking...! be confident and forget everything except ur spirit. this will surely help u. for more details u can contact me on my mail. with warm regards my id is [IMG]https://www.citehr.com/misc.php?do=email_dev&email=Z2F1cmF2LmhyLmtpbnR1QG hvdG1haWwuY29t[/IMG]
From India, Ahmadabad
Hi,
I will share the way I sort out my stage fear, when I have to speak in conferance then I do the eye to eye contact with every one , because I know the way You have stage fear most of the people in the audiance also have the fear too, and I try to put my self in a better way, another thing I have convinced my self is, I dont take every individual like a high level professional, when I speak I assume that they might have a friend or a sister like me in their personal life. When we speak in public that time instead of calling that as a crowd you have to take every individual separately and then speak confidently.
Regards
Ashwini
From India, Mumbai
I will share the way I sort out my stage fear, when I have to speak in conferance then I do the eye to eye contact with every one , because I know the way You have stage fear most of the people in the audiance also have the fear too, and I try to put my self in a better way, another thing I have convinced my self is, I dont take every individual like a high level professional, when I speak I assume that they might have a friend or a sister like me in their personal life. When we speak in public that time instead of calling that as a crowd you have to take every individual separately and then speak confidently.
Regards
Ashwini
From India, Mumbai
Dear Kumar
I would suggest you join an organisation called toastmasters. they have groups world over including india, in which you can enrol at a very low cost and they will help you overcome your stage fear and become a confident and fearless speaker.
You can google and find out where their locations are in India. My friend is a member of toastmasters dubai and she has benefited tremendously by joining this group. she has completely overcome her shyness, stage fear and is today even conducting trainings for large groups of people.
Wish you the best to overcome this phase.
Best regards
Lakshmi
I would suggest you join an organisation called toastmasters. they have groups world over including india, in which you can enrol at a very low cost and they will help you overcome your stage fear and become a confident and fearless speaker.
You can google and find out where their locations are in India. My friend is a member of toastmasters dubai and she has benefited tremendously by joining this group. she has completely overcome her shyness, stage fear and is today even conducting trainings for large groups of people.
Wish you the best to overcome this phase.
Best regards
Lakshmi
Hi,
Life gives us so many chances to improve ourself and its depend on us whether we wanna flow with time or we should take it as a challenge and get a new learning and rectify ourself by transforming our weakness in to strength.
The best part is you have identified your weakness so moving further, if you wanna improve your public speaking, always percieve that you are the only one who has full knowledge about the subject and your words carries value for audience .:)
When you practice, try to speak the words aloud and endevor to listen what you are saying, it will help you in getting confidence. Never think that you cann't do this bcz if you will think that you can not do, so reciprocately you will be having thousands ways to prove yourself that you can't so don'e supress yourself and boost up urself by saying i can do it.
Before going for meeting say loudly that i am the best, i am a good speaker, it will help you in analsying your own power. (Praise urself):icon6:
Don't learn your speech line to line otherwise there will be a fear that if u can forget anything. Be normal as u are as nothing new is happening, as they all needs ur sugestions and they all value you as an indivual.
Your body language should be positive and normal.
Key thing is that the problem is not there in ur speaking, this fear is lying in ur mind so before going just feed your mind with positive thought, think u r the best and you can do it.
Boost urself and stay confident. As u r what exactly u think u are.
Regards,
Rachna
From India, Delhi
Life gives us so many chances to improve ourself and its depend on us whether we wanna flow with time or we should take it as a challenge and get a new learning and rectify ourself by transforming our weakness in to strength.
The best part is you have identified your weakness so moving further, if you wanna improve your public speaking, always percieve that you are the only one who has full knowledge about the subject and your words carries value for audience .:)
When you practice, try to speak the words aloud and endevor to listen what you are saying, it will help you in getting confidence. Never think that you cann't do this bcz if you will think that you can not do, so reciprocately you will be having thousands ways to prove yourself that you can't so don'e supress yourself and boost up urself by saying i can do it.
Before going for meeting say loudly that i am the best, i am a good speaker, it will help you in analsying your own power. (Praise urself):icon6:
Don't learn your speech line to line otherwise there will be a fear that if u can forget anything. Be normal as u are as nothing new is happening, as they all needs ur sugestions and they all value you as an indivual.
Your body language should be positive and normal.
Key thing is that the problem is not there in ur speaking, this fear is lying in ur mind so before going just feed your mind with positive thought, think u r the best and you can do it.
Boost urself and stay confident. As u r what exactly u think u are.
Regards,
Rachna
From India, Delhi
Hi there!
Lots of advice coming your way!Let me add my two-bit!I don't know how many days you have to go before this session of yours, but a good idea would be to start smiling at people you interact with, looking at them -in an interested sort of way, not intimidating!put yourself in the audience's place- if someone comes to speak to you, you are ,generally, interested in hearing them out. Same will be the case with you.The audience wants to know what you have to say, whether it makes sense,so be very thorough with your material.Don't worry about the delivery part- once you are passionate about what you're saying, the audience catches on to your enthusiasm & stays with you.All the best!
From India, Pune
Lots of advice coming your way!Let me add my two-bit!I don't know how many days you have to go before this session of yours, but a good idea would be to start smiling at people you interact with, looking at them -in an interested sort of way, not intimidating!put yourself in the audience's place- if someone comes to speak to you, you are ,generally, interested in hearing them out. Same will be the case with you.The audience wants to know what you have to say, whether it makes sense,so be very thorough with your material.Don't worry about the delivery part- once you are passionate about what you're saying, the audience catches on to your enthusiasm & stays with you.All the best!
From India, Pune
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