Sharing a few thoughts for Would-be grooms
Recently came across a divorce that happened for the silliest of reasons...at least i was told so! The girl walked out bcoz the guy was all the time comparing her with his mom! am not here to judge who was at fault...obviously both were!
But its pathetic to know relationships are taken so lightly...
.....just sharing a few thoughts that came to mind of what i might advice my own boys!!!!
For Would-Be Grooms:
Rule.No.1 - Never compare your mamma's cooking with your wife's! There is no faster way to dig your own grave than that! Please understand that your mom's cooking has the backing of 20 odd years of experience.. ..don't expect that from your wife whose hardly into the process! What if she were to compare your earning capacity with her dad's!!! So shshshhhhh.. ..!!!
Rule.No.2 : Never go out of your way to please the lady with flowers, chocolates and gifts during your engagement period. If ever you do , please follow it up post-wedding too! When you could cover 20kms in 15 minutes when you are engaged just to spend some time with her, how dare you forget her birthday post - marriage, even after you are given the broadest of hints by her!
Remember expectations always double...ever heard of them being halved ???
Rule.No.3: Do compliment her every now and then, verbally or with gifts! What are those lovely Teddies and Archies gift cards for? Don't sit there like the Lord Of The Rings expecting to be waited upon! Of course she will do it but everyone likes to be appreciated and pampered!!!!
Rule.No.4: This is very important! Sulking or complaining about marriage being a big mistake is a strict NO -NO !! You got into it with your eyes wide open, brimming with enthusiasm !! No one ever pushed you into it! So why this drama now!
Rule.No.5: Be Brave and take your own decisions and stand up by them !!
Consult your parents for advice but realise that you are grown up enough to lead your life! Respect your partner's views at all times! Remember she has given up a lot more to make a life with you!!
Sharing thoughts for Would-be Brides. (Don't know how many will take it in the right sense. BUt stil...)
1. Don't expect too much from him. Less the expectations lesser the disappointments.
2. Don't ever dare to plan any outing or movie on a day when there is an interesting cricket match going on. REMEMBER SPORTS <READ CRICKET> is more important to him than anything else. U spoil his day n He spoils urs
3. Over Emotions, Sentiments.. . Woha... What are these? Tears are not going to give any results either. It's just a temp. attention tht u get. No one likes Cry Babies m Whining Wifes.
4. Never dare to cross with his mother.Even if he says "My Mom's cooking is the best. U are nothing in front of her." take it easily with a smile. Tell him tht u are learning from his mother and will try to do it better. U are not gonna lose anything!
5. Try to know his friends and understand that they are also part of his world.Allow him to spend few weekends or occasional night out parties with his friends.But at the same time make sure that u get u r due importance! It must not be tht he roams arnd with his friends forgetting that you exist at home.
6. Don't start fighting for silly things.Forgetting bthdays n Anniversaries is not a big mistake. Men are not blessed with 2 GB RAM for storing everything in main memory.If you are very particular abt present gifts n parties on u r bthdays n anniversaries. make sure u remind them well in advance by some means (I know it sounds stupid. But if u are so particular,Do it for u r own good)
7. Take him for your shopping only if he's interested.If you are going for Window Shopping or for saree purchase,Better go with your friends/go alone.He is better at office/home watching cricket.
8. Give him importance always. Show due care and affection.Tht 's the only way to win a guy's mind.
Regards,
AK
From India, Thana
2Recently came across a divorce that happened for the silliest of reasons...at least i was told so! The girl walked out bcoz the guy was all the time comparing her with his mom! am not here to judge who was at fault...obviously both were!
But its pathetic to know relationships are taken so lightly...
.....just sharing a few thoughts that came to mind of what i might advice my own boys!!!!
For Would-Be Grooms:
Rule.No.1 - Never compare your mamma's cooking with your wife's! There is no faster way to dig your own grave than that! Please understand that your mom's cooking has the backing of 20 odd years of experience.. ..don't expect that from your wife whose hardly into the process! What if she were to compare your earning capacity with her dad's!!! So shshshhhhh.. ..!!!
Rule.No.2 : Never go out of your way to please the lady with flowers, chocolates and gifts during your engagement period. If ever you do , please follow it up post-wedding too! When you could cover 20kms in 15 minutes when you are engaged just to spend some time with her, how dare you forget her birthday post - marriage, even after you are given the broadest of hints by her!
Remember expectations always double...ever heard of them being halved ???
Rule.No.3: Do compliment her every now and then, verbally or with gifts! What are those lovely Teddies and Archies gift cards for? Don't sit there like the Lord Of The Rings expecting to be waited upon! Of course she will do it but everyone likes to be appreciated and pampered!!!!
Rule.No.4: This is very important! Sulking or complaining about marriage being a big mistake is a strict NO -NO !! You got into it with your eyes wide open, brimming with enthusiasm !! No one ever pushed you into it! So why this drama now!
Rule.No.5: Be Brave and take your own decisions and stand up by them !!
Consult your parents for advice but realise that you are grown up enough to lead your life! Respect your partner's views at all times! Remember she has given up a lot more to make a life with you!!
Sharing thoughts for Would-be Brides. (Don't know how many will take it in the right sense. BUt stil...)
1. Don't expect too much from him. Less the expectations lesser the disappointments.
2. Don't ever dare to plan any outing or movie on a day when there is an interesting cricket match going on. REMEMBER SPORTS <READ CRICKET> is more important to him than anything else. U spoil his day n He spoils urs
3. Over Emotions, Sentiments.. . Woha... What are these? Tears are not going to give any results either. It's just a temp. attention tht u get. No one likes Cry Babies m Whining Wifes.
4. Never dare to cross with his mother.Even if he says "My Mom's cooking is the best. U are nothing in front of her." take it easily with a smile. Tell him tht u are learning from his mother and will try to do it better. U are not gonna lose anything!
5. Try to know his friends and understand that they are also part of his world.Allow him to spend few weekends or occasional night out parties with his friends.But at the same time make sure that u get u r due importance! It must not be tht he roams arnd with his friends forgetting that you exist at home.
6. Don't start fighting for silly things.Forgetting bthdays n Anniversaries is not a big mistake. Men are not blessed with 2 GB RAM for storing everything in main memory.If you are very particular abt present gifts n parties on u r bthdays n anniversaries. make sure u remind them well in advance by some means (I know it sounds stupid. But if u are so particular,Do it for u r own good)
7. Take him for your shopping only if he's interested.If you are going for Window Shopping or for saree purchase,Better go with your friends/go alone.He is better at office/home watching cricket.
8. Give him importance always. Show due care and affection.Tht 's the only way to win a guy's mind.
Regards,
AK
From India, Thana
After 30 years of marriage ups & downs, I think I have rediscovered what marital happiness is.
Your write up has reinforced many of my thoughts.
Thanks, AK.
Vinita - you said slay all men instead. Why???
Regards,
Sunil Chandra
From India, Gurgaon
Your write up has reinforced many of my thoughts.
Thanks, AK.
Vinita - you said slay all men instead. Why???
Regards,
Sunil Chandra
From India, Gurgaon
Thanks Kiran hoping for the same :lol:
Thanks a lot Sunil :lol:
Sorry Seema i didn't knew that you needed it, otherwise i would have told you earler. But it never late to do right things :P :P Thanks
Regards
AK
From India, Thana
Thanks a lot Sunil :lol:
Sorry Seema i didn't knew that you needed it, otherwise i would have told you earler. But it never late to do right things :P :P Thanks
Regards
AK
From India, Thana
Maybe good one, but ppl will never understand and take their relationship for a ride........ - Manasa
From India, Bangalore
From India, Bangalore
Nice One brother, but maintaining relationships need a hell and heaven both full of manipulations.
this suggestion is for the guys alone as i am sure girls / ladies are not going to understand the gist of it. However it will easily be understood by Guys and they will be able to relate to the manipulations i referred to just now.
Hope ur day is good and happy holi all.
Holaa.. :)
Alex.
From India, Madras
this suggestion is for the guys alone as i am sure girls / ladies are not going to understand the gist of it. However it will easily be understood by Guys and they will be able to relate to the manipulations i referred to just now.
Hope ur day is good and happy holi all.
Holaa.. :)
Alex.
From India, Madras
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